We Don’t Need Pity, We Need Help

Lately a viral video has been circulating of a mom “crashing out” from everything she’s been carrying, and the lack of a village surrounding her as many other viral mom cry videos . The first thing we always see on social media is: “Go show her love. Send love. Show support.”

And yes, love matters. Encouragement matters. But here’s the part that keeps getting missed: she doesn’t just need love, she needs help.

Nobody is asking for pity. Nobody is asking for a sad face emoji or a comment that says “stay strong, mama.” What moms are crying out for(sometimes silently, sometimes not) is real, tangible help.

We live in a society where the default mindset is: fend for yourself, nobody is coming to save you.(There still is truth to this) And while there’s truth in building your own strength, sometimes it’s not about being strong...it’s about someone else showing up.(A closed mouth doesnt get fed) If you’ve been there before, if you know the struggle, if you’ve made it out of that season, then why wouldn’t you help another mom get through hers but offer real tool to help?

That’s exactly why I created The Babymama Club.

Because I was that mom.

Because I know so many others who are that mom.

It doesn’t matter if you’re raising a child with special needs, if you’re a single parent, or if you just don’t have a support system....so many moms are living without a village. They don’t have people who see them, understand their struggles, or care enough to pick up the phone and ask, “Are you okay?”

This space was created for you to be real and raw with your feelings. To say the things you can’t always say out loud. But it was also created to move us toward solutions. Because sitting in pity won’t change anything but creating your own village will.

And let’s not forget: God shows up through people. That means it’s on us to not only pray for help, but also to be the help. 2025 has to be about more than pretty words and pretty pictures. It has to be about community action and development.

We can’t keep circling around the idea of “where’s the village?” without getting real about it. At the end of the day, it boils down to this:

I need help. Who can help me? Are you willing to help? I am.

Strong mom = Strong communites

That’s it.

If we really want to shift things, if we really want to stop moms from silently breaking down, then our communities have to step up and answer it.